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Why Support Matters
A cancer diagnosis affects far more than the body.
It can bring stress, fear, uncertainty, and changes to daily life.
Support helps ease these burdens by:
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Reducing feelings of isolation and loneliness
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Supporting emotional and mental health
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Helping patients cope with stress, anxiety, and depression
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Encouraging adherence to treatment plans
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Improving overall quality of life
Studies have shown that people with cancer who experience stronger support report better mental health and a higher quality of life compared to those who feel unsupported.[2]
As leaders within the cancer advocacy community emphasize:
“Patients who have a good support system tend to have better outcomes. What we’ve found is that peer support, which includes help and advice from other people who have had similar experiences with cancer, either as patients or caregivers, is a very helpful kind of support and an important part of a good cancer support system.”
– Elizabeth Bouchard, MA, PhD, Associate Professor of Oncology in the Department of Cancer Prevention and Control at Roswell Park Comprehensive Cancer Center
Support doesn’t just improve outcomes - it can make everyday life with cancer feel more manageable, less isolating, and less overwhelming.
Kinds of Support
Building a support system often begins at diagnosis and evolves over time. Your needs may change throughout treatment and survivorship, and that’s okay. There is no single “right” way to build support. Your support system can grow over time. Some people start with one trusted person or one type of help. Others lean on different sources at different stages of their journey. All of these approaches are valid.
Informational (Cognitive) Support
Informational support may come from healthcare providers, patient navigators, advocacy organizations, or trusted loved ones. Some patients want detailed information, while others prefer just the essentials. Your preferences may change over time—and that’s okay.
This type of support includes:
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Learning about your cancer, prognosis, and treatment options
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Understanding potential side effects and how to manage them
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Information about available services, resources, and support programs
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Getting help preparing questions for medical appointments
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Taking notes during visits or helping review test results
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Finding reliable resources, clinical trials, or support programs
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Helping organize medical records or track symptoms
Informational support may come from healthcare providers, patient navigators, advocacy organizations, or trusted loved ones. Some patients want detailed information, while others prefer just the essentials. Your preferences may change over time—and that’s okay.
How to ask for informational support
You may ask for things like:
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“Can you come to this appointment with me and help take notes?”
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“Can you help me research this treatment?”
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“I’m overwhelmed—can you help organize my medical info?”
Every patient is different. Some people prefer detailed information, while others want only what they need in the moment. Preferences may even differ between patient and caregiver, and that’s OK. Choose what feels right for you.
Emotional support focuses on helping patients feel heard, understood, and connected throughout their cancer journey. This can include having someone to talk with openly about fears, hopes, and day-to-day challenges; sharing how your diagnosis or prognosis affects you and your family; and expressing what you need to feel emotionally supported during treatment and beyond. Emotional support may also involve discussing how cancer has changed your relationships, identifying ways to stay connected with friends and loved ones, and asking for reassurance or comfort during difficult moments.
Emotional support can come from many sources, including:
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Family and close friends
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Cancer-focused counseling or therapy
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Support groups (in person or online)
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Spiritual or faith-based support
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Peer-to-peer or mentor programs
How to Ask for Emotional Support (Conversation Starters)
Sometimes it’s hard to know what to say—or how to ask for what you need. These simple prompts can help start the conversation:
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“I don’t need solutions right now—I just need someone to listen.”
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“Can I share how I’m really feeling today?”
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“This has been emotionally overwhelming. Could we talk for a few minutes?”
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“I’m struggling and could use some encouragement.”
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“I feel disconnected lately—can we find a way to stay in touch more regularly?”
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“It would help me to talk about how this is affecting my family.”
You can also be specific about what support might look like for you—whether that’s regular check-ins, quiet company, a hug, or help finding professional counseling or peer support.
Support, no matter where it comes from, helps reduce isolation, build resilience, and strengthen your sense of belonging. Many patients find peer support especially helpful - connecting with someone who truly understands what it’s like to live with cancer can bring comfort, validation, and hope.
Emotional Support
Logistical Support
This type of support often comes from friends, family, community organizations, or patient assistance programs. Accepting help in these areas can reduce stress and allow you to focus on healing. Cancer can affect nearly every part of daily life.
Logistical, practical help may include support with:
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Transportation to appointments
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Financial or insurance concerns
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Housing or lodging during treatment
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Childcare or caregiving responsibilities
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Legal or workplace issues
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Wellness needs (such as massage, yoga, fitness)
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Pet care
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Housework or keeping up with the home (such as yard work or laundry)
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Cooking, meals, or nutritional support
Tip: Many people want to help but don’t know how. Giving specific tasks (“Could you drive me Tuesday?” or “Can you drop off dinner?”) makes it easier for others to step in.
Recovery Care
Recovery often requires hands-on support, and having trusted people involved can make a meaningful difference.
Care partners, family members, and friends can help support healing by assisting with:
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Medications or injections
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Wound care or managing drains (as directed by your care team)
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Watching for signs of infection or complications
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Supporting gentle movement or prescribed exercises
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Preparing nutritious meals
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Helping stay hydrated
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Tracking symptoms or side effects
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Attending follow-up appointments
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Helping communicate concerns to your medical team
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Encouraging to trust the treatment and healing process!
Emotional encouragement matters too—reminding patients to rest, celebrating small milestones, and encouraging them to speak up when something doesn’t feel right. Thoughtful recovery support helps patients heal safely while feeling less alone during the process.
*Also note that your healthcare providers play an important role in your support system by offering guidance, education, and reassurance. Informational support - such as understanding your diagnosis, treatment options, side effects, and available services - can help you feel more confident and empowered as you move forward. Your healthcare team can also empower and provide support to your caregivers at home.
The Importance of Building a Support System
For anyone facing cancer, the journey can feel overwhelming and isolating. And facing abdominal cancers is no exception. In fact, the complexity of rare and advanced abdominal cancers, as well as the specialized therapies to treat them, present steep and unique challenges for patients and caregivers. You may not immediately think about your support systems while preparing for or navigating appointments, treatments, and decisions - but having a strong support system can make a meaningful difference.
Support systems are often described as a network of family members, friends, neighbors, peers, and community members who offer emotional, practical, and sometimes financial help when it’s needed. Research consistently shows that strong support is linked to better emotional well-being, improved quality of life, and even better health outcomes for people living with cancer.[1]
Building a support system looks different for everyone. You don’t have to do everything at once, and there is no “right” way to accept help. This resource is meant to offer ideas and options - so you can choose what feels right for you, when you’re ready.
Online Tools That Help Your Community Support You
Sometimes friends and family want to help but don’t know how - or you may feel uncomfortable asking repeatedly. Web-based support tools can make it easier to coordinate help in one place, reducing stress for you and your caregivers.
These tools allow you to share updates, organize meals or rides, and let others sign up to help in ways that work best for them. Some examples you may want to consider include:
Meal & Task Coordination Platforms
• Meal Train – A widely used online tool for organizing meal support after illness, surgery, or major life changes. You create a shared calendar and family/friends sign up to bring meals.
https://www.mealtrain.com/
• Give InKind (Care Calendar) – A flexible “care calendar” platform where supporters can sign up not only for meals but also childcare, rides, errands, pet care, and more. It includes reminders, messages, gift card options, and news updates for the community.
https://www.giveinkind.com/
• CareCalendar.org – One of the original free online platforms to organize meals and broader kinds of help. Friends and family can sign up for tasks like rides, visits, errands, and lawn care - and reminders can help keep everyone on track.
https://www.carecalendar.org/
• SupportNow (Support Registry) – A tool that lets you create a support registry to organize help beyond just meals - including volunteers, financial donations, and ongoing tasks - and integrates with Meal Train if you’ve already set one up.
https://www.supportnow.org/
Online Care Communities & Update Platforms
• CaringBridge – A nonprofit site where patients or caregivers can set up a personal page to share health updates, photos, and milestones with trusted family and friends. It’s often used along with links to Meal Train or similar support sign-ups.
https://www.caringbridge.org/
• Lotsa Helping Hands – A platform to create a care community page for someone in need, featuring a shared calendar where helpers can sign up for meals, rides, visits, or other caregiving tasks, plus messaging and coordination tools.
https://lotsahelpinghands.com/
BuildingYour Support System
Your support system should reflect your personal preferences, values, and needs. Here are a few ways to start:
Share What You’re Comfortable Sharing
Tell family, friends, or trusted community members about your diagnosis and treatment when - and how - you choose. You are in control of what information you share and with whom. Opening up can help others understand how to support you and what lies ahead.
Ask for Help - and Be Specific
Many people want to help but aren’t sure how. It’s okay to ask for specific support, whether that’s a ride to an appointment, help with meals, or someone to listen. Reaching out is a sign of strength, not weakness. Remember that your journey as a patient or caregiver does not make you a burden! Rather, allowing others to help gives them a meaningful way to show care and support - something many friends and family want to do.
If you’re not sure where to begin, consider starting small:
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Choose one person you trust to share what you’re going through
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Identify one task that feels hard to manage alone
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Explore one support option when you feel ready
Connect with Other Patients and Caregivers
Support from others who are also living with cancer - patients and caregivers - can be incredibly powerful. These connections can happen through support groups, online communities, or peer-matching programs.
The Abdominal Cancers Alliance’s Patient and Caregiver Network is one example of how peer support can work - bringing together individuals who understand the unique challenges of rare and advanced abdominal cancers.
“Being able to talk with someone who truly understands this journey made me feel less alone and more hopeful.”
- Alliance Patient & Caregiver Network participant
Your Support System Can Change Over Time
Your needs may look different during diagnosis, treatment, recovery, and survivorship. It’s okay to reassess and ask for different kinds of help as things change. Building support is not a one-time task—it’s an ongoing process!
You Are Not Alone
The importance of a strong support system cannot be overstated. Support provides comfort, reduces isolation, and helps ease emotional, practical, and financial burdens. Whether your support comes from loved ones, healthcare professionals, peers, or advocacy organizations, you deserve care and connection throughout your cancer journey. Practical support is just as important as emotional support. Accepting help with everyday tasks can conserve your energy and allow you to focus on your health and well-being.
Building a support system takes time - and it can change along the way. What matters most is finding support that works for you. Support is here for you - even if you’re not ready to reach out today. When the time feels right, you don’t have to face cancer alone.
“For people facing rare and advanced cancers, isolation can be especially profound. Building a strong support system - one that includes peers, caregivers, and trusted resources - can make a life-changing difference in both well-being and quality of life.”
- Keera Godfrey, Board Member, Abdominal Cancers Alliance
How the Abdominal Cancers Alliance Can Help
The Abdominal Cancers Alliance is committed to ensuring that no patient or caregiver faces abdominal cancers alone. Through education, connection, and advocacy, the Alliance helps individuals affected by rare and advanced abdominal cancers build meaningful support systems.
The Abdominal Cancers Alliance offers you:
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Opportunities to connect with others who understand the unique challenges of abdominal cancers
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Peer support from patients and caregivers with shared experiences
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Access to trusted information, resources, and educational programs
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A compassionate community focused on connection, understanding, and hope
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A directory of partner organizations that can help you find the care and information you need
Whether you are newly diagnosed, in treatment, or supporting a loved one, the Abdominal Cancers Alliance is here to help you feel informed, supported, and less alone.
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